Wednesday, 19 April 2017

8 THINGS I'D TELL MYSELF WHEN LEARNING TO DRIVE




As I was scrolling through my feed reading blog posts for inspo I read Rebecca's post (From Roses) which I have linked here. Rebecca talked about being an anxious driver and just passing her test, congrats! Highly recommend you give it a read if you are currently doing driving lessons or about to sit your test.

I took inspiration from this as I remember when I was doing my lessons and just passing my test that  it was absolute hell for me and I hated every.single.second.of.it. What would I tell myself if I was to learn to drive again?!


1. Relax 

Easier said than done but just try to keep calm and relax and try to enjoy it. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone has to learn and start from somewhere. Try your best, get the most out of your lessons and relax!

2. Don't cancel bookings 

This is one I done frequently, towards the end of my lessons I would cancel if I had a really bad lesson knowing I had another in 2 days time for 2 hours. I couldn't bear to think of going through it all again so soon. Do not cancel unless you absolutely have to, it drags it out even longer and gives you more time to panic over the small things. I would recommend getting lessons once or twice a week to get it done quicker.

3. It's OK to be anxious 

I always felt like I was being an utter fool for getting so worked up and anxious before and after lessons and even once I'd passed my test for a good while I after. I hated driving, I was soo nervous about it all the time. I would literally sweat before a lesson or once I had passed my husband asked me to pick him up and i just burst into tears because I was so anxious about driving. I finally figured out that I didn't hate driving, I just hated driving a manual car and got an automatic which literally changed my life. I have now been driving 6 years and will drive anywhere!

4. Take someone calm in the car with you 

We all know it's crazy expensive for driving lessons so it's great to go out with 'L' plates on with your mum / dad or partner to save money and get some experience. Take someone who is calm or even better someone you aren't as close to as you are less likely to argue or say you can't do it. My husband took me out a couple times and it was a disaster to say the least. He just didn't have the patience for it and was more worried about me damaging the car haha! 

5. You can go for an automatic license 

Now this isn't something many people advise and to be honest I am glad I didn't do my automatic license as i do have the option to drive a manual and learn again. As I have said, I was sooo nervous and anxious driving a manual that I knew I was a danger on the road. Yes, it comes with time and practice but for me it wasn't getting any better only worse. I knew I had to go automatic when I was driving (by myself) and my car broke down in a yellow box on one of the busiest junctions. Cars were beeping at me from every angle and I couldn't move the car. That to me was the last straw, I couldn't take it anymore and said I would never step foot in a manual car, 6 years later I've still never driven a manual again. 

6. Focus on your own driving 

This was something I did alll the time I would constantly be looking at my rear view mirror panicking that people were driving too close to me etc. My driving instructor always said to me to focus on what I am doing and where I am going not anyone behind me. Whatever happens behind you is their issue not yours, focus on what you are doing but still be vigilant we all know there are complete idiots on the roads. 

7. Don't tell people you have your test booked 

I told so many people I was going for my test and I got them all asking me when it was how i was feeling about it etc and it just added to the pressure and anxiety around it. It was even worse when I failed my first test and had to tell everyone, I decided not to tell anyone about my 2nd test apart from my husband and I'm sooo glad I done that because i didn't have that added pressure there. I did pass on my 2nd test! 

8. YOU CAN DO IT 

Yes, you can! Tell yourself you can and will do it, give it your all and focus. When I done my 2nd test I was all ready to go with my examiner when another guy came out with a pin stripe suit and clipboard on him and announced, I will be coming with you to examine the examiner. He sat behind me in the car and for a split second I wanted to burst into tears but thought no, I can do this, I know exactly what I am doing just get it done and I did! 



I hope this has helped some of you and let me know in the comments below if you have any tips if you are or were learning to drive? 




Love Gill x 


7 comments:

  1. I am such an anxious driver, and I've tried to tell people that I'd feel better with an automatic, but I've been told that I have to learn manual, and I will admit that I'm terrified! Thank you for this post, it really helps!xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

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    1. I am glad i done a manual test as i have the option but feel wayyyy better driving an automatic for sure

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  2. I remember my driving test so vividly! But I couldn't have done it without my mum and sister helping me practice everyday, it's true that practice makes perfect x

    Everything But The Kitchen

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  3. Literally just needed to relax haha. But thats easier said than done since at the time the only thing I could do was stress
    Kathy x
    Alongcamekathy

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    1. same, i was sweating so much it was unreal lol x

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  4. These tips are great, I wish I had read tips like this before learning to drive! It was honestly the most stressful time! My first instructor was so horrible, that I once actually got out of the car in the middle of a road and told him to just drive haha!

    Sarah

    http://www.surroundedbysparkle.com

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    1. No way haha!!! My driving instructor was really good actually but didn't stop me being crazy nervous x

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